The list below contains descriptions of some of the more common traits of people who suffer from personality disorders, as observed by family members and partners. Please note that these descriptions are not intended for diagnosis. No one person…
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Loss Parents Walking Alternate Paths
A FB group for those who have lost children of any age and are not Christian or not conservative Christian and need a safe place to talk and discuss loss and life after a loss.
Yay! I gave the link to a pagan friend of mine who has suffered a loss, I know little of their circumstances (he will tell me in his own time if he ever does,) but he appreciated the link ^_^
A relatively small list of alternatives.
Please note: I’ve written this with someone specific in mind to use in their comfort box. These aren’t the only choices, and these may not work for everyone. Most are from other existing lists, but some are not.
Sources: x, support page.
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If angry or restless:
- Fill a paper with cross hatches
- Draw or write what is making you angry (and rip the paper)
- Scribble on pictures or paper (and rip up)
- Flatten aluminum cans
- Break sticks
- Cut up fruit
- — Try making a fruit salad, so there’s an incentive for the fruit to be in definite chunks.
- Make a soft cloth doll to destroy
- Build a pillow fort and destroy
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If you want a physical sensation:
- Hold an ice cube (in your hand, or where you want to self-injure)
- Snap a rubber band against your wrist
- Wax your legs
- Pluck your eyebrows
- Splash cold water in your face
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If you want to see blood:
- Wet a soft (not Crayola) colored pencil and draw on your skin
- Drip red food coloring on your skin
- Mix red food coloring with non-toxic glue *
- Use body paint *
- Use nail polish *
- Make up wounds (can also apply to bruises)
- Put a fake tattoo where you want to self-injure
- Put henna where you want to SI
* This can also give you the sensation of picking scabs.
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To keep your mind busy:
- Memorize a poem
- Write out lyrics to a favourite song
- Pick a topic and research it
- — Also can see how far off topic links take you
- Sudoku puzzles
- Math problems (stimulating, but not frustratingly hard)
- Brainstorm potential recipes
- — Unlimited budget and ingredients, set a budget, use a specific ingredient, etc.
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If you need to keep your hands busy:
- Knitting
- Crochet
- Embroidery
- Make homemade bread
- Try to make something you usually buy from scratch
- Try a new recipe
- Pull weeds
- Garden
- Clean **
- Fold laundry **
- Do household chores **
- Origami
- Organize a cluttered area **
** Unfuck Your Habitat may be a helpful resource: site, tumblr, Life Happens page, tips, Challenges (Unfuck Your Weekend, Mini, Full), etc. Note: Messiness is not a moral failing.
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If you feel like drinking:
- Listen to some of your favourite music (or music appropriate to mood)
- Write out your feelings
- Draw, paint, make art in some way.
- Convert alcoholic drinks into non-alcoholic drinks (if applicable)
- Color in a coloring book
- Cuddle a stuffed animal
- Snuggle under a warm blanket
- Read a book (or fanfiction)
- Watch a movie
- Catch up on a tv series
- Fix a favourite meal and drink
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Online programs and other crafty things that can help to relieve stress: here, here, here, here, etc. More alternatives here and here. If a comfort box isn’t your thing, an alternatives jar might be.
Things To Remember
- Don’t be angry at yourself when anxiety/depression flares up. It isn’t your fault and no one blames you and if they do they’re pieces of shit.
- Don’t orbit around your perceived value so much. You’re not the sum total of what you produce.
- Don’t let yourself wonder why people love you. That’s not how it works. There are not stark, individual reasons that a person can enumerate about why they love you. It’s the entire, unique combination of what and who you are.

taekookau-deactivated20160227:
heya so i thought i’d make a little help masterpost. (if you prefer a page there’s one here x)
ROUGH NIGHT?
- listen to let it go from frozen in 25 different languages
- luke’s giggle will make u happy
- 5sos did a dumb thing that will make you smile
- and another dumb thing
- you’re cute, so look at this complimenting website
- watch some good movies:—)
- playlists for your moods
- cute random acts of kindness
- hugs??????
- play some pointless dumb but entertaining games to cheer you up
- disney movies!!
- cute things to make you happy
- noise machines to help you calm down
- if school is making you sad: remember that your mental health comes before schoolwork, always, and your teacher will understand that.
DEPRESSION/SELF-HARM/SUICIDE:
- self-harm alternatives
- if you’ve already self-harmed, take care of your cuts/burns/etc !!
- country suicide hotlines
- suicide hotline masterpost
- how to stop self-harming + fully understand it
- butterfly project (self-injury prevention)
- suicidal? talk to someone or help someone!
- suicide prevention- like a hotline, but online!
- not sure how to help someone who is suicidal?
- reasons to live
- tips to help stop cutting
- how to fade/cover/hide your scars
- how to explain scars (excuses)
- just relapsed?
- coping with your depression
- natural depression treatments
- antidepressants: which one should you ask for?
- types of mental health issues
- feel the need to see blood? (cut a white screen)
- the thoughts room
ANXIETY & INSOMNIA:
- understanding anxiety
- different types of anxieties
- having a panic attack?
- dealing with social anxiety
- explanations of many anxiety disorders
- tips to beat insomnia
- understanding & curing insomnia
- when to try to sleep (based on when you need to wake up)
- tips for falling asleep quickly
- how to help someone having a panic attack
- do not say these things to someone having a panic attack!!
- tips for calming down your anxiety
EATING DISORDERS:
- why you should try to recover
- feeling bloated?
- prevent your relapse!
- why you should recover (why you need to eat)
- love your body
- bulimia recovery steps
- stop putting yourself down
- boost your confidence
- self-love
ABUSE & SEXUAL ABUSE:
- healthy vs unhealthy boundaries in a relationship
- abuse hotlines
- how to overcome emotional numbness
- how to realize sexual abuse is not your fault
- how to realize sexual abuse is not your fault (part 2)
- how to realize physical abuse is not your fault
- how to forget about sexual abuse
- domestic violence and abuse
- how to escape an abusive relationship safely
- aftersilence program (victims of abuse and sexual abuse)
- do you think someone you love is getting abused?
- healing, forgiving and overcoming physical and sexual abuse
- speaking out after sexual/physical abuse
if you can think of other links to add or need help, message me anytime xx
Sensory Overload and how to cope.
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this is very good advice. being autistic, i’m susceptible to overload, and do my best to keep my environment restful so i’m better able to deal with the outside world when i need to, but sometimes shit happens. the number one thing i wish people knew about overload is: don’t get between me and the door. usually i catch it in time to politely excuse myself ‘for a cigarette’ but sometimes, like if i get cornered one of those people who stands too close and wears too much perfume and talks too loud and completely ignores disengagement signals, i can end up in a hurry to get away from the stimulus, and even a little panicky. so like… don’t block my path on my way out, okay?
also, don’t follow me outside and keep talking. don’t try to participate in my spindown. don’t demand reassurance every thirty seconds. don’t make it about you. i’ve got this. i don’t need your help. i just need you to stop making it worse.
Meditation That Eases Anxiety? Brain Scans Show Us How
Research and technology have advanced to the point where scientists can observe the way in which meditation affects the brain to reduce anxiety.
Using special imaging technology, researchers from Wake Forest Baptist Medical Center report that they have determined the way in which meditation affects or acts upon certain brain mechanisms.
“Although we’ve known that meditation can reduce anxiety, we hadn’t identified the specific brain mechanisms involved in relieving anxiety in healthy individuals,” said Fadel Zeidan, Ph.D., the lead author of the study.
“In this study, we were able to see which areas of the brain were activated and which were deactivated during meditation-related anxiety relief.”…













