Odds are that if there’s something that I love, I’ve accidentally run over it. My feet, my friends’ feet, my family’s feet, my hand, my clothes, my laptop, my textbooks, my dog’s tail, the president of my college…
It’s at this time that I would like to remind everyone that I am, in fact, in a wheelchair.
Author: Sephira
Born and raised primarily in Northern Virginia, my family and I moved to North Carolina in 2006. Married for over 20 years, my husband and I have two boys and a gaggle of cats.
For me, writing is a great stress reliever. I can let my mind wander and let my emotions run free in a way that is generally not possible in my normal everyday life. My writings run the gamut in terms of style and genre – for instance my first novel is a historical romance set in the Civil War, but some of the other things I have in the works are fantasy or thrillers, among other things.
It probably goes without saying, but my poetry is somewhat eclectic in nature, and again while some may feel the need to stick with a particular form, I tend to write just whatever comes to mind. Let the winds of inspiration lead me on…
I’m always interested in comments and feedback. So please feel free to share your thoughts with me!
It’s over.
It wasn’t a war or a fight. Those things have rules. This was more like Aaron getting in the ring with the Mohammed Ali of cancers, and smiling for round after round after he got his teeth knocked out and his face rearranged.
Ding.
One more heartbreak, today.
Nora’s been documenting Aaron’s tumor for two and a half years now. Beautifully, openly, sometimes lightly, always poignantly. As she puts it, “It’s not a cancer story, it’s a love story. With some cancer.” You can start that story from the beginning over here.
Aaron passed away yesterday. Our condolences to all those he leaves behind. We’re in awe of your strength, and we’re grateful for this record of your love.
DBT Self-Help Resources: Letting Go of Emotional Suffering
Emotion regulation refers to a person’s ability to understand and accept his or her emotional experience, to engage in healthy strategies to manage uncomfortable emotions when necessary, and to engage in appropriate behavior (e.g., attend classes, go to work, engage in social relationships) when distressed.
People with good emotion regulation skills are able to control the urges to engage in impulsive behaviors, such as self-harm, reckless behavior, or physical aggression, during emotional distress.
To Sigyn:
Enduring, Victorious Woman,
She who gave up everything in pure unconditional love.
The epitome of loyalty.
She of hidden, quiet strength.
Balancer, Gardener of the Heart,
You ignite in me these aspects.
Your invincible heart teaches me to forgive and to be open for love.
My North Star, Lady of the Staying Power,
I am truly humbled by Your presence.
Your dignity, love, loyalty- Your everything
Inspires me to represent you properly.
Beloved Sigyn, I honor you.Daily devotion time is divided into morning meditation and musical offering, and night writing to Them and reading my devotional. As I read a devotional for Sigyn this afternoon I felt compelled to write this. I’m sure it’s very similar to many things out there for her, but nevertheless..
Surviving The Great Holiday Depression
Here are a few suggestions for getting through the holiday season if you struggle with holiday depression:
1) Non-holiday gathering. If you have friends or acquaintances who struggle with the holidays, consider having a gathering of your own preference. Maybe even invite people you don’t know who are also in the same boat. Whether or not these are close friends, you already will have common ground in helping to support each other through the holidays.
2) Break the holiday idealization. It’s just another day. While the media and social media won’t let us believe that’s the case, the holidays are only as grand as we allow them to be. Some people don’t regard the holidays as a special day at all, and just live them as an ordinary day, filling the day with whatever brings them fulfillment.
3) Time off from social media. Even when it’s not the holidays, social media have a way of making people feel bad about their lives. The holidays on social media are sort of like regular days on steroids — all of the seemingly exorbitant levels of happiness dressed in a holiday theme. (Maybe it would help if people also posted the frustrations and not just the good things that make it seem like life is always wonderful). Around the holidays (approximately a week before and a few days after), keep with reality by taking a break from Facebook, Twitter, and any other happiness media.
4) Take a break from TV. If you’re going to be alone around the holidays and must watch some TV, I suggest watching things that make you forget it’s the holiday season. Reruns of tv shows (not the holiday episodes), movies that aren’t holiday themed, sports, or otherwise. Be careful with TV — the commercials will still remind you of the time of year. (And maybe stay away from all Steve Martin movies. As funny as they can be, even his non-holiday movies have a way of portraying life with the ideal happy family living in a mansion in Beverly Hills. Come to think of it, maybe just eliminate all comedies with snow…). So, if you can, I recommend another form of entertainment — books, puzzles, word puzzles, cooking, baking, gym, crafts, building, etc.
5) Focus on your hobbies. If you find yourself alone, or choose to be alone, around the holidays, make it a time of year to focus on your hobbies. These can be any of the activities above, or anything else that interests you — traveling, hiking, bike riding, movies, golfing, gaming, etc. Also, try meetup.com as a possibility for activity groups around the holidays that can bring you around other people who enjoy the same hobbies as you.
There are other possibilities for getting through the holidays. The main idea is to know that you don’t have to be alone, and to know that you are not alone in your desire to move straight from November 15th to Jaunary 3rd.
Sigyn and Loki Studying
I’m convinced that Loki has a crush on Sigyn comparable to Raleigh’s on Mako and you can’t convince me otherwise.
(I had this on my other blog but I decided it should be here.)
this is a really important message because it is a common misconception about autism, but it’s also important to acknowledge that people who have conditions that involve less of the other types of empathy are also important and are no less human because often times people try to dehumanize us (autistic people) by saying we don’t have empathy, and it is important to correct their misconception, but it is also important to assert that people who don’t have other kinds of empathy are just as important and valuable as those who do.
Holding the Bowl 