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http://www.pdf-archive.com/2014/03/30/why-does-he-do-that/why-does-he-do-that.pdf
There have been many moments in life that I felt were kinda creepy, like when a guy I barely knew offered to pay me an expensive ticket to a show, or when my friend rambled nervously about how his exboyfriend would never survive without him… And this book is confirming that creepy behaviours are really associated with controling, manipulative, abusive partners. This is giving me more confidence in my creep-dar. I think everyone should join me.
It actually has to do with how our brains work. We do this thing called “thin slicing”, where we analyze micro details of a situation and look for associations with things we’ve seen before. This is a very fast process and it’s not a rational one, and often we get this “bad vibes” feeling way before our rational mind realizes the reason why we’re uncomfortable.
So yes, listen to your discomfort. That’s your brain picking up on signals that there is something wrong with the situation you’re in, signals that your rational mind didn’t perceive yet. It’s a built-in survival mechanism. You get bad feelings about a dude, it’s probably because you noticed something about him that matched some other creep you’ve met before.
Tumblr, you’re doing something right.
This is what happens when you search the tag suicide, depressed, self harm, and eating disorder. To anyone struggling with any of these things, please reach out and seek help.
You are worth it and you deserve it.
Also, please reblog this so more people can see this. It could save a life.
Gratitude: That Word Doesn’t Necessarily Mean What You Think It Means
I wrote this about a week back and hadn’t planned on posting it in my fandom space, but a fandom friend said something to me about it that made me rethink that decisions. This is a discussion of clinical depression and everything that comes with it. If any of that is triggering, I’d give this a…From the lovely, generous, thoughtful arsenicjade
1. I’m aware of what I have. I suspect many people with severe clinical depression are. And we ARE grateful for it. But being grateful is not equal to being happy, or even NOT DEPRESSED.
Depression is a chemical misfire of the brain. It’s not sadness. Sadness will come and go. Depression, if treatment-resistant, may not. And unlike “A Beautiful Mind” would have the average person believe, mental illness is not actually something you can reason your way out of.
I can no more say to myself, “It is a pretty day and breakfast was delicious and I love my dog,” and force myself out of the depression than someone without an arm can regrow that limb out of the awareness that things would be so much easier.
I almost didn’t go to therapy today, because I feel like my problems are common place, and can be solved by common sense, and I don’t want to take up time and resources that could be used by other people. And Therapist said: “You’re not ever wasting my time. You’re bi-polar, and that’s really hard for a lot of different reasons, and I’m someone who understands that. I’m here to help you.”
So now I’m crying off and on at a cafe because I’ve seen four therapists throughout my life and still don’t feel like I have a handle on how to deal with being bipolar, and I SHOULDN’T feel selfish or guilty for going to therapy. I still do, but I shouldn’t, and I’m working on treating my feelings—even the obvious ones, or ones I thought I worked through in the past—like they’re legitimate and important.
arsenicjade’s post convinced me to go to my appointment today.
This was really good to read today, for almost the same reasons. Thank you both.
Gratitude: That Word Doesn’t Necessarily Mean What You Think It Means
This is glorious and even thought it doesn’t fit in the range of all the paranormal, creepy and science I usually post, I MUST share
It works like this: You tell Kitestring that you’re in a dangerous place or situation, and give it a time frame of when to check in on you. If you don’t reply back when it checks your status, it’ll alert your emergency contacts with a custom message you set up.
It doesn’t require you to touch anything (like bSafe) or shake your phone (like Nirbhaya) to send the distress signal. Kitestring is smarter, because it doesn’t need an action to alert people, it needs inaction.
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Resources for Male Survivors
I posted last week asking people if they knew of some good resources for male victims of sexual assault. Here is the list people came up with:
Thanks everyone!
There was a split second there where his like, “wait, what? bro what are you doing?”
On more serious note, PTSD dogs for veterans are so fucking therapeutic. They’re like the one person you can spill your guts to and never worry about ever being judged or have that secret divulged. There are times when I definitely prefer the company of a dog over a human.
Therapy animals save lives.
These dogs are even still so much more amazing. They check rooms before their handler enters, so they can clear it to help the person feel safe. Like in the gif, they are there when panic attacks or nightmares occur, to be something for the person to help ground themselves on, or yes just to turn on the lights. Even more amazing, many people are able to reduce their medication when they have a PTSD service dog there to help them. These dogs are useful for not just veterans, but also victims of abuse, accident trauma, natural disasters, and others. Their training allows them to be useful in situations where medical assistance is needed, as well. Some PTSD dogs are trained to recognize repetitive behaviours in handlers, and signal the handler to break the repetition and stopping the behaviour and possibly injury.
Service dogs in general are just awesome. Remember to respect any that you see out in public. They are not there for you to walk up to and play with, even the puppies!
Anxiety is not rude. Depression is not selfish. Schizophrenia is not wrong. Eating disorders are not a choice. Obsessive-Compulsive Disorder is not crazy. Mental illness isn’t self-centred, anymore than cancer is self-centred. It’s a medical illness.
(via bewilderedapprehension)
To stay in recovery, you must be responsible for finding your own motivation. Remember, motivation may not be easy to come by at first. It will probably be a very small, timid part inside of you. When you find it, let that part be in charge. Let the minority rule and lead you to a life you never dreamed was possible.
Jenni Schaefer, Life Without Ed: How One Woman Declared Independence from Her Eating Disorder and How You Can Too (via cadaverosas)
Holding the Bowl 