martinsassman:

a masterpost to help you feel better and get through the day. 

distract yourself

static noise / background sounds (helps you focus / feel less overloaded – I can’t study without this stuff)
simply noise
my noise
rainy mood
nature sounds
jazz and rain
rainy cafe

lots of things to do
writing, painting, makeup, body care, even movies master post
musical squares 
lucid dream
learn a new language
make your own mind palace!!
draw a nebula
make your own font
learn something new
fun sites to visit
bubble wrap game
answer questions to buy rice to help end hunger!
get a hug from a nice person
microwave mug snacks

watch something 
ultimate teen movie master post 80s – today
bbc sherlock
granada sherlock holmes
pretty little liars
hannah montana 
ellen best moments

listen to music
tom hiddleston’s song of the day masterpost
my personal “tunes” tag

when you are sad

adisri’s tag
abby’s tag
cierra’s tag
my tag

anxiety
play with sand
chill out
zen garden (video)
managing stress
social anxiety tips
anti anxiety masterpost
the quiet place
the dawn room
tour of the stars
identifying your type of anxiety
how to cope with a panic attack
anti anxiety foods
make a thought diary
dealing with panic attacks and anxiety (video)
mental illness help apps

depression
how to overcome emotional numbness
coping with depression
natural depression treatments
which antidepressant should you ask for?
depression test (not 100% accurate)

insomnia
tips to beating insomnia
understanding insomnia
when to fall asleep according to sleep cycles (helps you feel more awake later)
tips for falling asleep quickly

self harm
alternatives to self harm
if you already have, here’s how to care for injuries
understand self harm and how to stop
butterfly project (self harm prevention)
tips for stopping cutting
how to fade and cover scars
how to explain scars (avoid talking about visible scars)
just relapsed? read this.
need to see blood? cut a white screen.

eating disorders
different eating disorders explained
why you should try to recover
feeling bloated?
preventing relapse
why you need to eat
learn to love your body
recovering from bulimia
don’t put yourself down
how to boost your confidence
self love
loose weight the healthy way (blogilates youtube – great workout, healthy eating, and self improvement channel)

suicidal
countries (outside of US) suicide hotline list
suicide hotline list (includes US as well as other countries)
talk with someone or help someone!
online suicide prevention – talk it out online
how to help someone who is suicidal
reasons to live
100 reasons NOT to commit suicide

abuse
healthy vs. unhealthy relationship boundaries
abuse hotlines
understand that sexual abuse is not your fault
understand that physical abuse is not your fault
how to move on from sexual abuse
understanding domestic violence and abuse
how to escape an abusive relationship safely
after silence (support for victims of abuse)
do you think someone you love is being abused?
healing and overcoming abuse
speaking out after abuse

ptsd
help guide for ptsd
help guide for ptsd 2 (similar to 1 with more extensive self-help tips)
how to help someone with ptsd
10 tips for understanding someone with ptsd
coping with ptsd

asking for help
telling people how you are feeling
how to tell someone about your anxiety
how to ask for help

restoring your faith in the world
random acts of kindness caught on film (video)
real life heroes (video)
giving servers $200 tips (video)
paying for people’s groceries (video)
faith restoring 
in case you forgot the world is a gorgeous place (video)

other master posts that may be helpful (:
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Most importantly, remember that YOU ARE LOVED.
Feel free to message me at any time for any reason. 

traumatherapist:

How to make your very own I Don’t Suck file:

It can be general or specific—A lot of my clients make general files with notes from loved ones or former students/clients/bosses of theirs or other supports. Or magazine clippings that remind them of goals or qualities they have. I am currently making one that is therapy related as a way to transition from my most recent job and prepare for my move abroad. It has notes from clients, supervisees and evaluations.

What you need: It can be as low maintenance as a file folder stuffed with notes or as high maintenance as a well-crafted scrapbook. What’s important is that you have a place to go when you need a pick-me-up.

You can gather things to build it—don’t have what you’re looking for? Start gathering!

  • If you have a friend or family member you trust to be supportive of you, see if they’d be willing to write you a note about what they like about you.
  • Next time you’re looking at a magazine or reading a blog and see something that resonates with you—save it for your file. Truth resonates, and you can’t recognize something that you don’t have, so if there is something you read or see that you admire and relate to, there’s something of you that’s in it.
  • Write yourself some affirmations when you’re feeling good—make your own or use song lyrics or quotes.

-latest After Trauma post

Self Care in Self Betterment

wanderinglistener:

So it’s that time of the year, again— holidays and finals. There’s lots of stress going around, and we can get caught up in our busy schedules to the point where we get sick (or worse). So, I’d like to make a little post with some ways to hopefully help in our self care. You can take a whole day for yourself or just a few minutes, if your schedule won’t allow it.

  • Take a shower, bath, or run a warm, damp washcloth over your face, neck and shoulders. Take some time to pay a little extra attention to other grooming, as well! You can do things like manicures, pedicures, face masks, etc. in the comfort of your home, if you prefer it.
  • The air gets really dry this time of year, so you can get lotion or a humidifier to help with that. If you have a wood stove, you may consider putting a pot of water on top so it releases the steam into the air (but keep an eye on it). You can add things like cinnamon sticks in the water that creates a lovely smell, but be careful of the water level, as you don’t want the cinnamon to burn!
  • Treat yourself to a little (or big) something, if your budget allows. Maybe you’ve been eying a new book, for example!
  • Wash/change your blankets, sheets, and pillow cases. Perhaps you’d like to get a new detergent for an extra nice smell!
  • Curl up with some music and a book, hot drink, knitting project, etc.! I’m personally fond of melting a candycane in hot chocolate while listening to musicians like Loreena McKennitt, Enya, and Mozart. Loreena and Enya both have Christmas related albums if you’d like to listen to them and are in a festive mood.
  • Play with a pet you may have or a friend’s! (Be sure to ask permission first!)
  • For this one, I would suggest seeing a doctor about prior. I’m in a place that gets very little sunlight in the winter, so I need it, but you may not! With the lack of sunlight in the winter, our immune systems can take a really big hit, and pulling all-nighters for finals doesn’t help any,either. When I was in school (and even now) I’d take a single tablet of vitamin D3 every day. It would keep me feeling more energized, happier, and would rarely get sick. Again, talk to a medical professional before getting these. (You can also take daily vitamins! )

I hope these suggestions help you guys, and that you all have a happy and safe holiday season!

How Proper Self Care Can Reduce Your Stress

How Proper Self Care Can Reduce Your Stress

7 Key Insights on Self Love

onlinecounsellingcollege:

1. I need to affirm and to validate myself as it’s hard to accept validation from others if, deep down inside, I don’t believe it’s true.
2. My time is valuable as anybody else’s so I need to prioritise what I need to do.
3. I can’t give to others, and help to build them up, if I’m not taking care of my own self first.
4. I need to remember that I’m worthy of love, of success, opportunities, and knowing happiness.
5. My opinions are as valuable as anybody else’s. It’s up to me to decide and to choose my own beliefs.
6. I don’t have to explain why I do what I do (unless you’re the police or have some authority!)
7. My past does not define me – I’m free to change and grow, to try on different “me”s, and to set inspiring goals.