thewhaleridingvulcan:

crystalsoulslayer:

I always hate it when people are all “so do you go to school, or are
you working, or” and I either have to

  • make up some lie, or
  • eventually get
    around to “I am not working because of depression/anxiety,” and
    subsequently have to deal with whatever bullshit-riddled and completely
    unsolicited opinions on mental illness this stranger feels obligated to
    share with me.

So my therapist was like, “You don’t have to do either.
You can just say you haven’t worked in a while because you’re recovering
from an illness.”

I tried it when the home inspector was here today, and it fucking worked.
He was like, “oh, I’m sorry, are you doing better now,” and I’m like
yeah, and don’t worry, it’s not contagious, awkward laugh, and we moved
on.

MY THERAPIST. IS A GENIUS. Because it is an
illness, so it’s not a lie to say that, and it’s also none of his
business to know specifically what it is, and I clearly don’t want to
give more details, so we should move on from this topic. MY THERAPIST IS A GODDAMN GENIUS.

Dude I needed this. I never know what to say when people ask if I work because I’m severely disabled and don’t work.

Practical Tips, From Experience

ofcourseitsmyhead:

If you’re in a down patch, and you’re able to find this, I’ve compiled a list of handy things that have helped me survive the horrible pits of despair with relative ease.

Food

– Stock up on ‘easy’ foods. Canned goods, soups, TV dinners, or other things you can just throw in the oven. It’s absolutely essential that you can still eat, regardless of what you’re putting in your body. You can work on the ‘better’ diet once you’re mentally stable.
– 
If you’re having trouble with solids because your depression forces you to stop eating, definitely make use of the soups. Broths, especially, can get some nutrients into you without making your stomach feel like it needs to purge.
– If you’re worried about a nutritional deficit, stock up on meal replacement powders or shakes. My go-to is Usana’s Nutrimeal/MySmartShake, that I get from my friend Stacey. They’re filling but not overbearing on the stomach, so when I forget to eat, or stop eating entirely, I’m never worried I’ll be malnourished.
– Have 2-3 blender-style bottles handy, so that making shakes is as seamless as possible.
– If you binge during your low periods, try and keep your water intake as high as possible. That should help force your stomach to shush for a while, and if drinking liquids doesn’t help, I find bananas to be a wonderful source of filling snackery, as well as granola bars. You can also try replacing a drink or two each day with a meal replacement shake, which can help fill the gap and prevent over-eating.
– Tea. Tea tea tea. It doesn’t really matter what kind of tea it is, as long as you find it tasty. There’s something about a warm cup of tea, prepared to perfection, that can at least temporarily get me out of a slump. Herbal infusions, green teas, and white teas are probably ideal, because of the high antioxidant properties and smaller caffeine influence.

Daily Structure

– One of the things that destroys me during my down periods is the drop in routine. Keeping a routine is critical for mental stability, because it can prevent rumination and intrusive thoughts.
– No matter how late you wake up, change your clothes. It is so tempting to stay in bed in your PJs all day, but the simple act of changing into a new set of clothes can help wake you up, and assist in basic functions and self-care.
– Spend 10 minutes cleaning. Doesn’t matter what, where, or how you clean, but even something like washing a few plates in the sink has kept me sane and alert. Do something you’ll reasonably enjoy, since that’ll help give your brain the feeling of fulfilment much easier.
– Set alarms. Depression can nuke your sleep schedule something fierce, so having at least two alarms can help remind you when to wake up and go to bed.
– Speaking of bed, find ways to wind yourself down. Read a book, play a casual game on your phone/tablet, do something with your hands if you like (knitting, crochet, sew, Lego, puzzles, etc.) As long as you make sure you’re relaxed and engaged in what you’re doing, you should be able to wind down. I have a side lit e-reader that I use to get me sleepy once I lay down.
– Talk to someone at least once, if you can. If all your friends are busy, download or navigate to 7 Cups of Tea. It’s an app that will connect you to a Listener, and it’s 100% Free. They also have daily progress paths, mental health exercises, and affirmations that can help remind you that you’re valuable.

Misc.

TAKE YOUR MEDS. Set alarms if you have to. Do everything you can to preserve your medication regimen, because if you have meds, keeping that routine stable will help you come back faster.
– Keep tabs on your appointments. When I’m lost in a downward spiral, I will forget literally everything I’m supposed to do. It’s terrible. I’ve started putting my appointments in my phone to make sure I keep them within arm’s reach, and always visible using the widget.
– Stimming/Force Focus. If I’m caught in a panic, I find something soothing to the senses. Fuzzy blanket, cat, dog, plush turtle to snuggle, Lego pieces to fidget with or build to keep my hands busy. Finding something that draws focus is critical for avoiding intrusive thoughts and excessive rumination. I do connect the dot puzzles because they rely on sequential number patterns, and I usually feel better after a small burst of it.
– Keep your support network involved, as best you can. Never feel stupid for reaching out to loved ones when you’re down. If they don’t know you’re hurting, they can’t help you heal. And if it’s not a good time for someone, they’ll tell you. Do not feel like you’re bothering them. If you’re worried about one person being unavailable, send a message to two or three people just to make sure you’ve got backup.

I’m running out of ideas right now, but hopefully these are a good start. Feel better, friends. ❤

crimsondomingo:

demondetoxmanual:

“In that way, you’ve acknowledged that you’re unsure, that you don’t know what to do or say. You’ve acknowledged that you see them. They feel seen. They feel heard and acknowledged, which is huge for someone who’s in crisis.”
Wentworth Miller | Q&A at Oxford Union | 2016 | x

This is…actually the most beautiful and helpful advice, honestly.

If someone isn’t available during your most crucial time, then their presence any other time is useless.

neurotoxinsonline:

mymindsecho:

This isn’t realistic for adults. I’m sorry it’s just not.

Don’t fall into believing that, “if they’re a true friend they’ll drop everything and run to be by your side!” crap.

As a responsible adult there will be times that your friends are hurting and you won’t be able to go to them.

There are times that you will have to go to work, or take your sick kid to the doctor, or do many other things that will prevent you from being there for your friend.

When your friend calls you and they’re falling apart and it’s ten minutes until you have to leave for work, you’re not a bad friend for saying, “Look, I love you. I’m sorry this is happening, but I have to go. I’ll call you back tonight when the kids are asleep.” Or “I’m so sorry this is happening. I love you and I want to be here for you but I’ve got to get to work. I’ll call and check on you during my lunch.”

Adult life is hectic and busy with important things all the time and unfortunately it’s also full of shitty things happening to people we love.

Do your best to be there for the people you love and ask for support when you need it but be understanding when being a responsible adult comes before helping you.

The idea that people need to be there any time you need them is really damaging and unhealthy, too. You can’t place value on a person or a relationship based solely on whether or not they’re available, no questions asked, whenever you need them.

In addition to the above: sometimes, someone simply does not have the energy to help. Maybe they’re coming out of a rough patch themself, maybe they have been busy all day,maybe a chronic illness is flaring up. There are a myriad of reasons someone may not be able to be there.

Obviously, if someone is taking you for granted, and never seems to care how you’re doing, that’s an issue. But to write someone off because their life and your life didn’t line up quite right at a given point in time, or maybe even on more than one occasion, is not a healthy way to handle things.

deadly-voo:

deitygod:

viverridae:

lets play a game of: did i really do this or did i just think about doing it
so hard that i constructed a false memory of it

this is a symptom of dissociation

Before everyone starts to freak out, this is also a symptom of human brains being fallible. False memories get constructed all the freakin’ time. 

Tumblr has this really bad habit of taking things singly and saying “this is a symptom of x” and sending healthy people into a panic. You need a lot more than just one element of something for a diagnosis. You’re probably fine.

And I say this because as a mentally ill, neurodivergent person this shit sends me panicking all the time. I have to talk myself down and remember how normal a lot of it really is.

crimsondomingo:

demondetoxmanual:

“In that way, you’ve acknowledged that you’re unsure, that you don’t know what to do or say. You’ve acknowledged that you see them. They feel seen. They feel heard and acknowledged, which is huge for someone who’s in crisis.”
Wentworth Miller | Q&A at Oxford Union | 2016 | x

This is…actually the most beautiful and helpful advice, honestly.

thathumanwiththecatears:

kuroba101:

sweet-and-tender:

lesbiandana:

hello! I don’t know if anyone has already made a post about this before, but I just stumbled upon this app made specifically for when you’ve gone into a nonverbal anxiety attack!!!

it was made by Jeroen De Busser who is an autistic computer science student.

the app is really easy to use! all you do is open it and hand your phone to someone you need to communicate with during an attack but physically cannot, and it shows this cool little alert for the person to read, and then it takes them to an easy to use chat (that looks a lot like texting! except both of you are communicating using the same device). 

the alert message is completely customizable and you can have it say whatever you need! 

the app is called Emergency Chat and it’s available in the Apple Store and google play store. 

I highly recommend it to anyone who might need it 🙂

OH MY GOD?!?!?? BOOST

That’s so bootiful!

thank you so much for this because i never know what to do when i cant talk to people and they just start trying to ask me questions and its really hard to force myself to say i cant talk and stuff. im definately getting this right now