A poem I wrote to read about love and about marriage at my friends’ wedding party last night.
Tag: marriage
Attention Disorders Can Take a Toll on Marriage
Does your husband or wife constantly forget chores and lose track of the calendar? Do you sometimes feel that instead of living with a spouse, you’re raising another child?
Your marriage may be suffering from attention deficit hyperactivity disorder.
An A.D.H.D. marriage? It may sound like a punch line, but the idea that attention problems can take a toll on adult relationships is getting more attention from mental health experts. In a marriage, the common symptoms of the disorder — distraction, disorganization, forgetfulness — can easily be misinterpreted as laziness, selfishness, and a lack of love and concern.
Adults with attention disorders often learn coping skills to help them stay organized and focused at work, but experts say many of them struggle at home, where their tendency to become distracted is a constant source of conflict. Some research suggests that these adults are twice as likely to be divorced; another study found high levels of distress in 60 percent of marriages where one spouse had the disorder.
How to Survive a Health Crisis or Chronic Illness in Marriage | Reader’s Digest
A medical crisis or lifelong health condition rewrites the script of your relationship. Your roles may change drastically. Your future doesn’t look the way you’d hoped. Sex, money, work, chores, fun — they’re all different now. “Managing the way an illness affects your marriage is just as important as keeping up with medications and doctor’s appointments and treatments,” Dr. Sotile says.
“Today, most illnesses aren’t short events. They’re processes that go on and on and on, possibly for the rest of your lives. And both of you will need different things at different times in the process. Couples who take responsibility for this can build stronger, closer marriages despite the presence of illness.”
How to Survive a Health Crisis or Chronic Illness in Marriage | Reader’s Digest
Sweeping Up Shards
After a year of courtship, a legal union dressed as pirates, and 8 tumultuous years…my marriage is ending. The thing that was never going to happen to me is happening. It was my call, but that doesn’t make it painless. It doesn’t mean I don’t love him, either. It just means that living conditions became unbearable for me and I had to make a change.
Because sometimes… even as much as we want to continue holding the bowl, there comes a time when we need to know our own limits, and recognize when it’s time to let go and move on.
Love, Dating, Relationships and Disability
Love comes in all shapes and sizes, and sometimes the shapes and sizes include disabilities, big and small. We’re exploring love in many forms with first-hand accounts from the frontlines of dating, marriage, intimacy and friendship, all with people living—and loving—with disabilities or challenges like long-distance romance.
Holding the Bowl 