Tag: coping

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martinsassman:

a masterpost to help you feel better and get through the day. 

distract yourself

static noise / background sounds (helps you focus / feel less overloaded – I can’t study without this stuff)
simply noise
my noise
rainy mood
nature sounds
jazz and rain
rainy cafe

lots of things to do
writing, painting, makeup, body care, even movies master post
musical squares 
lucid dream
learn a new language
make your own mind palace!!
draw a nebula
make your own font
learn something new
fun sites to visit
bubble wrap game
answer questions to buy rice to help end hunger!
get a hug from a nice person
microwave mug snacks

watch something 
ultimate teen movie master post 80s – today
bbc sherlock
granada sherlock holmes
pretty little liars
hannah montana 
ellen best moments

listen to music
tom hiddleston’s song of the day masterpost
my personal “tunes” tag

when you are sad

adisri’s tag
abby’s tag
cierra’s tag
my tag

anxiety
play with sand
chill out
zen garden (video)
managing stress
social anxiety tips
anti anxiety masterpost
the quiet place
the dawn room
tour of the stars
identifying your type of anxiety
how to cope with a panic attack
anti anxiety foods
make a thought diary
dealing with panic attacks and anxiety (video)
mental illness help apps

depression
how to overcome emotional numbness
coping with depression
natural depression treatments
which antidepressant should you ask for?
depression test (not 100% accurate)

insomnia
tips to beating insomnia
understanding insomnia
when to fall asleep according to sleep cycles (helps you feel more awake later)
tips for falling asleep quickly

self harm
alternatives to self harm
if you already have, here’s how to care for injuries
understand self harm and how to stop
butterfly project (self harm prevention)
tips for stopping cutting
how to fade and cover scars
how to explain scars (avoid talking about visible scars)
just relapsed? read this.
need to see blood? cut a white screen.

eating disorders
different eating disorders explained
why you should try to recover
feeling bloated?
preventing relapse
why you need to eat
learn to love your body
recovering from bulimia
don’t put yourself down
how to boost your confidence
self love
loose weight the healthy way (blogilates youtube – great workout, healthy eating, and self improvement channel)

suicidal
countries (outside of US) suicide hotline list
suicide hotline list (includes US as well as other countries)
talk with someone or help someone!
online suicide prevention – talk it out online
how to help someone who is suicidal
reasons to live
100 reasons NOT to commit suicide

abuse
healthy vs. unhealthy relationship boundaries
abuse hotlines
understand that sexual abuse is not your fault
understand that physical abuse is not your fault
how to move on from sexual abuse
understanding domestic violence and abuse
how to escape an abusive relationship safely
after silence (support for victims of abuse)
do you think someone you love is being abused?
healing and overcoming abuse
speaking out after abuse

ptsd
help guide for ptsd
help guide for ptsd 2 (similar to 1 with more extensive self-help tips)
how to help someone with ptsd
10 tips for understanding someone with ptsd
coping with ptsd

asking for help
telling people how you are feeling
how to tell someone about your anxiety
how to ask for help

restoring your faith in the world
random acts of kindness caught on film (video)
real life heroes (video)
giving servers $200 tips (video)
paying for people’s groceries (video)
faith restoring 
in case you forgot the world is a gorgeous place (video)

other master posts that may be helpful (:
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Most importantly, remember that YOU ARE LOVED.
Feel free to message me at any time for any reason. 

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traumatherapist:

How to make your very own I Don’t Suck file:

It can be general or specific—A lot of my clients make general files with notes from loved ones or former students/clients/bosses of theirs or other supports. Or magazine clippings that remind them of goals or qualities they have. I am currently making one that is therapy related as a way to transition from my most recent job and prepare for my move abroad. It has notes from clients, supervisees and evaluations.

What you need: It can be as low maintenance as a file folder stuffed with notes or as high maintenance as a well-crafted scrapbook. What’s important is that you have a place to go when you need a pick-me-up.

You can gather things to build it—don’t have what you’re looking for? Start gathering!

  • If you have a friend or family member you trust to be supportive of you, see if they’d be willing to write you a note about what they like about you.
  • Next time you’re looking at a magazine or reading a blog and see something that resonates with you—save it for your file. Truth resonates, and you can’t recognize something that you don’t have, so if there is something you read or see that you admire and relate to, there’s something of you that’s in it.
  • Write yourself some affirmations when you’re feeling good—make your own or use song lyrics or quotes.

-latest After Trauma post

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bisexualkuvira:

uglyuglyugly2:

A bar has opened that doesn’t serve alcohol, and it’s surprisingly successful.

Brillig Dry Bar in Ann Arbor, Michigan doesn’t serve alcohol, but owner Nic Sims is counting on customers not caring.

She hasn’t had a drink in 20 years, and she wanted to create a space where people—including, but not limited to, recovering alcoholics—could gather to have fun and socialize without worrying about drinking. In other words, she wants Brillig Dry Bar to have “a bar-like convivial atmosphere, with snacks and drinks and conversation, without it being a bar,” she told MLive.com.

Sims runs the bar as a pop-up out of her husband’s coffee shop, Mighty Good Coffee. She serves interesting non-alcoholic drinks, like Brooklyn Egg Creams, Pomegranate-Rosemary Sodas, and Vegan Pumpkin Chillers, as well as snack plates with meats, cheeses, and cookies.

Though some detractors have accused Sims of being anti-alcohol, the bar’s opening night last Friday was packed. According to BuzzFeed, “Brillig’s first customers included former drinkers, pregnant women, Muslims, teenagers, and college kids.”

The next pop-up will be December 26.

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This sounds super cool.

Holiday Gatherings With Family: Tips for Holiday Stress and Anxiety

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For many, the biggest source of holiday stress is family – the family dinner, the obligations, and the burden of family tradition. WebMD offers tips on ways to prepare yourself and cope better with family obligations and holidays this season.

Holiday Gatherings With Family: Tips for Holiday Stress and Anxiety

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davestriderinthighhighs:

Let me tell you, if you are ever with a person who has anxiety, and they ask you to order their food for them, or stand next to them when they buy something, or reassure them countless times exactly the time and place where you will be meeting them at, DO NOT ROLL YOUR EYES, DO NOT SIGH IN EXASPERATION, AND DO NOT TELL THEM TO STOP BEING SO SILLY. Sometimes its hard to do simple things like that, and when people help us out, it means the world to us.

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staff:

myhusbandstumor:

It’s over.

It wasn’t a war or a fight. Those things have rules. This was more like Aaron getting in the ring with the Mohammed Ali of cancers, and smiling for round after round after he got his teeth knocked out and his face rearranged.

Ding.

(keep reading…)

One more heartbreak, today. 

Nora’s been documenting Aaron’s tumor for two and a half years now. Beautifully, openly, sometimes lightly, always poignantly. As she puts it, “It’s not a cancer story, it’s a love story. With some cancer.” You can start that story from the beginning over here. 

Aaron passed away yesterday. Our condolences to all those he leaves behind. We’re in awe of your strength, and we’re grateful for this record of your love.  

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2jam4u:

healingschemas:

DBT Self-Help Resources: Letting Go of Emotional Suffering

Emotion regulation refers to a person’s ability to understand and accept his or her emotional experience, to engage in healthy strategies to manage uncomfortable emotions when necessary, and to engage in appropriate behavior (e.g., attend classes, go to work, engage in social relationships) when distressed.

People with good emotion regulation skills are able to control the urges to engage in impulsive behaviors, such as self-harm, reckless behavior, or physical aggression, during emotional distress.

Surviving The Great Holiday Depression

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Here are a few suggestions for getting through the holiday season if you struggle with holiday depression:

1) Non-holiday gathering. If you have friends or acquaintances who struggle with the holidays, consider having a gathering of your own preference. Maybe even invite people you don’t know who are also in the same boat. Whether or not these are close friends, you already will have common ground in helping to support each other through the holidays.

2) Break the holiday idealization. It’s just another day. While the media and social media won’t let us believe that’s the case, the holidays are only as grand as we allow them to be. Some people don’t regard the holidays as a special day at all, and just live them as an ordinary day, filling the day with whatever brings them fulfillment.

3) Time off from social media. Even when it’s not the holidays, social media have a way of making people feel bad about their lives. The holidays on social media are sort of like regular days on steroids — all of the seemingly exorbitant levels of happiness dressed in a holiday theme. (Maybe it would help if people also posted the frustrations and not just the good things that make it seem like life is always wonderful). Around the holidays (approximately a week before and a few days after), keep with reality by taking a break from Facebook, Twitter, and any other happiness media.

4) Take a break from TV. If you’re going to be alone around the holidays and must watch some TV, I suggest watching things that make you forget it’s the holiday season. Reruns of tv shows (not the holiday episodes), movies that aren’t holiday themed, sports, or otherwise. Be careful with TV — the commercials will still remind you of the time of year. (And maybe stay away from all Steve Martin movies. As funny as they can be, even his non-holiday movies have a way of portraying life with the ideal happy family living in a mansion in Beverly Hills. Come to think of it, maybe just eliminate all comedies with snow…). So, if you can,  I recommend another form of entertainment — books, puzzles, word puzzles, cooking, baking, gym, crafts, building, etc.

5) Focus on your hobbies. If you find yourself alone, or choose to be alone, around the holidays, make it a time of year to focus on your hobbies. These can be any of the activities above, or anything else that interests you — traveling, hiking, bike riding, movies, golfing, gaming, etc. Also, try meetup.com as a possibility for activity groups around the holidays that can bring you around other people who enjoy the same hobbies as you.

There are other possibilities for getting through the holidays. The main idea is to know that you don’t have to be alone, and to know that you are not alone in your desire to move straight from November 15th to Jaunary 3rd.

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Surviving The Great Holiday Depression