She just got diagnosed with stage IV colon cancer.
She starts chemotherapy on Tuesday, 12 May 2015.
She currently has only (U.S.) Medicare for insurance, and there are a lot of things that Medicare won’t cover, or only partially covers. She is 67 years old and on a fixed income. I am a student and work part time at my university, for which I am paid a base $1000/month USD plus my tuition. Between the two of us we make it by on about $2000/month USD, but that was before her diagnosis.
We need your help.
I am raising money to help cover her medical bills and living expenses and any extra costs that we might incur due to her cancer. These extra costs include gas for the hour-plus that we will have to drive for her treatments twice a week, any special dietary needs she may have while on chemo, and that kind of thing.
I am offering to write fic as “thank you gifts” in return for donations to my mom’s cancer fund.
For every $10 that you donate, I will write you 1000 words of fic. (See fandom list under the cut.) Please consider helping us out if you are able to. Even if you are not able to donate, please reblog this post.
You know, I never see any positivity posts for people who have ADHD and struggled because of it. So shout out to ADHD kids who:
Were told they were just lazy, stupid, or weren’t applying themselves
Were put on medications with side effects worse than the intended effect
Tried so hard to study, and just couldn’t do it
Who had to be pulled from regular classes to be put into smaller ones away from all of their friends, and later had to awkwardly explain or excuse why
Have so many incomplete works because they got distracted and just never went back to it
Could relate to the “stupid” characters in TV shows who were forgetful or easily distracted and treated as a joke
Had their interests/hobbies taken away from them as a last-ditch attempt to get them to focus
Are always running late
Are effected by their ADHD daily and ignored by the mentally ill community for ADHD “not being serious enough.”
You’re super cute, and great for getting through all of that.
ALSO SHOUTOUT TO THE ADHD ADULTS WHO ARE DENIED CARE OR SUPPORT OR JUST PLAIN TOLD THEY DON’T EXIST BECAUSE ADHD SOMEHOW MAGICALLY VANISHES ON YOUR 18TH BIRTHDAY
If you work in a movie theater and you do this I have no respect for you.
My younger brother is Type 1 Diabetic.
When we go to a movie theater, we always get him diet soda. If he were to get regular when we asked for diet, we would not give him the insulin he would need for it. If that happens, his blood sugar level could go so high he could go into a coma, go blind, or even die.
If somebody gave him regular soda instead of diet without telling us, that person could be responsible for a nine-year-old being killed or blinded.
Just thinking about that makes me so angry. I get scared every time we take him to a movie in case the people working there saw this picture and decide to do the same thing.
Please signal boost this so people know.
This applies to other things, too. I’m ridiculously sensitive to caffeine, and when I ask for decaf, there’s a reason. If I get full caff sometime when I ask for decaf, I’m probably not sleeping for a day or two, and likely starting to get seriously worried about heart attacks.
THIS. I have so many allergies, it’s not even funny. And yeah, I’ve gotten sick from people screwing up my food. It’s why I almost never eat out anymore, and when I do, it’s at one or two trusted restaurants where the wait staff knows me very well, and are extra careful with my order.
This is possibly one of the most fascinating indirect ways in which I’ve seen the madness of diet culture endanger people’s lives. People get so resentful of the insanity that they will do stuff which blatantly endangers people because they just assume the people are being stupid.
Cripple Punk
(also known as cpunk)
A movement that is exclusively by the physically disabled for the physically disabled, started on tumblr. It’s about rejecting pity, inspiration porn, & all other forms of ableism. It ejects the “good cripple” mythos. Cripple Punk is here for the bitter cripple, the uninspirational cripple, the smoking cripple, the drinking cripple, the addict cripple, the cripple who hasn’t “tried everything”. Cripple Punk fights internalized ableism & fully supports those struggling with it. It respects intersections of race, culture, gender, sexual/romantic orientation, size, intersex status, mental illness/neuroatypical status, survivor status, etc. Cripple Punk does not pander to the able bodied.
-cripple punk is not conditional on things like mobility aids & “functioning levels”
-always listen to those w/ different physical disabilities & different intersections than yourself. do not speak over them
-disabled people do not need to personally identify w/ the words “cripple” or “punk” individually to be a part of cripple punk
-able bodied people wishing to spread the message may only ever amplify the voices of the disabled
-able bodied people may never use uncensored slurs themselves but never censor our language
-able bodied people must always tag things like reblogs with “i’m able bodied”
-physically disabled people wanting to be a part of the movement who are uncomfortable using the slur may refer to it as “cpunk”
Urban Dictionary’s definition for Cripple Punk is spot on (via fight-me-tater-tot)
My daughter lived more than six years with an incurable disease that filled her head with devils that literally hounded her to death, and she did it while laughing, painting, writing poetry, advocating and bringing joy to the people around her. She was the bravest person I have ever known, and her suicide doesn’t change that…
Other person: I already explained to you that it’s hot in here!
Autistic person: The door is open!
Other person: Why do you have to repeat things all the time?!
Often when this happens, what’s really going on is that the autistic person is trying to communicate something, and they’re not being understood. The other person things that they are understanding and responding, and that the autistic person is just repeating the same thing over and over either for no reason or because they are being stubborn and inflexible and obnoxious and pushy.
When what’s really happening is that the autistic person is not being understood, and they are communicating using the words they have. There’s a NT social expectation that if people aren’t being understood, they should change their words and explain things differently. Sometimes autistic people aren’t capable of doing this without help.
So, if this is happening, assume it’s communication and try to figure out what’s being communicated. If you’re the one with more words, and you want the communication to happen in words, then you have to provide words that make communication possible. For example:
Other person: Do you want the door to be closed, or are you saying something else?
Autistic person: Something else
Other person: Do you want to show me something outside, or something else?
Autistic person: Something else
Other person: Are you worried about something that might happen, or something else?
Autistic person: Worried
Other person: Are you worried that something will come in, or that something will go out?
Autistic person: Baby
Other person: She’s in her crib, and the baby gate is up. Is that ok, or is there still a problem?
Autistic person: ok
Holy fuck.
This changes everything.
*leaves for reference*
I babysat an autistic kid for a few years, it’s hard to understand how their brain works sometimes but when you click, everything pays off. patience and love, my friends.
Also works for allistics (is that the right term?) with brain fog, and other neuroatypicals.
EDIT: I deleted my example because I felt like I hijacked the autism post which wasn’t fair of me.
Holding the Bowl 